Im torn between my husband and my 13 yr old daughter I want to leave him but then again Im so confused on what

to do. My daughter hates my husband who is her step dad the arquments are because I dont put my foot down with I dont set rules nor boundries. She says hes too strict and calls him names hes constantly on her case and Ive realised that the only time there is peace or Im happy is eaither when hes away or shes away. He and I fight alot and even have gotten physical and its mainly becuse of my daughter me defending her or something I told him I think its best if we divorce because my daughter will always be first for example she leaves with her dad for the summer and she ended up fighting with her dad and going to my moms she called me that shes sick of her dad and that she wanted to come home so I told her I would pick her up when I wanted to then I talked to her dad and he said the reason she didnt want to be with him is beacuse my younger daughter was with him and it was a jealousy thing so I called Jess (my kid) and got on her and told her I was coming to get her I wasw so mad but I